Although jealousy is a common emotion between partners, it is not a healthy one. Jealousy in a relationship can trigger arguments and even lead to a breakup.
Follow these tips so you do not become a jealous partner.
Is It Normal to Feel Jealous of Your Partner?
Jealousy is a normal human reaction. Everyone can feel it toward family, friends, or a romantic partner. As long as you respond to jealousy in a healthy way, your relationship can stay on track.
Unfortunately, jealousy is not always helpful. Ongoing jealousy can signal problems linked to anxiety, anger, low self-esteem, or past trauma such as childhood issues or previous infidelity.
Excessive jealousy can be frightening and may lead to dangerous behavior, including stalking, digital harassment, and even physical violence. There is no reason to maintain or cultivate extreme jealousy in a relationship.
Healthy Vs Unhealthy Jealousy
In a romantic relationship, mild jealousy may appear now and then. You can talk with your partner about what made you feel this way. This kind of jealousy can motivate both you and your partner to appreciate each other and to make a conscious effort so their partner feels seen and loved.
When jealousy is left unchecked, it can become irrational and extreme. This excessive jealousy is a warning sign that the relationship could move toward harmful behavior.
People who feel jealous may be overwhelmed by emotions and at some point try to control their partner. They might resort to financial control, verbal threats, or physical violence to stay in charge and to reduce or hide their jealousy.
Many criminal cases have been driven by jealousy toward a partner. This is why managing jealousy matters.
How to Avoid Jealousy
If you know you are easily jealous, learn how to manage it. Try the following approaches:
Identify the causes of jealousy
Figure out what sparks your jealousy and what makes you feel insecure in the relationship. You may need support from a trusted family member or a therapist. A mental health professional can help you uncover the root of your jealousy and ways to address it.
Communicate with your partner
Consider sharing your feelings with your partner. Give them a chance to explain what is actually happening. Their explanation can help restore your sense of safety.
Talk to friends
Confide in a close friend who can listen. Describe what you are feeling so they can offer another point of view.
Don't judge
If jealousy festers without being discussed, it can turn into negative assumptions and judgments. You may not know the facts, so avoid rushing to judge your partner.
Create an atmosphere of trust
Talking openly with your partner is a positive step when jealousy pops up. This also builds trust as your partner clarifies what is really going on.
Honest communication helps create a supportive environment where both people feel respected and valued.
When jealousy turns negative and unhealthy, your relationship is at risk. Seek professional help right away to help you manage excessive jealousy so it does not harm your relationship.
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- dr Hanifa Rahma
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